Mondays generally chew away one’s rationality. Especially, when you are part of a team, do your work diligently and need to depend upon the other person/s to pave forward. Sounds familiar?

Anger can be such a natural outburst of such an experience. Let’s say you are a student. You have returned back from a long leave that was approved. You were given assurance you would receive a set of material, etc. to help with completion of pending tasks.

However, once you get back, you experience nothing but radio silence from the institute where you are enrolled. After 14 emails, they respond to one. After 10 more, you get a second response. The call center takes down all your information but you never receive that most awaited call. And despite doing all your work on time, they consistently fail to follow their own procedure.

So is anger imminent in this case?

How then do you deal with it?

How do you convince yourself, this is just business as usual for the institute. They know they can take you for granted.

This is a tiny example. There are plenty more things that can go wrong. With your manager, with your children, with your career, or simply put, experiencing a bad luck day.

In crazy times like these, here are my steps for calming myself down.

Stage 1:

Firefighting : Leave the place or room where energies are too high to handle. Take a walk or a run for five to ten minutes to clear the air. Get into some form of physical activity.

If you run into someone, make small talk. You could use a distraction. If you find nobody, speak to a tree. It will understand.

Stage 2:

Come back to your desk. The action may still be on. Or that email might just trigger you again. Hence, sit down and write exactly how you feel. Next, do at least 7 rounds of alternate nostril breathing or Anulom-Vilom.

Stage 3:

Find a space where you can be alone. Look into your camera or the mirror and tell yourself – “You are smarter than you think. You can handle this. Work on the solution, not on picking a fight”

Now rethink how you can motivate or use authority to get the other person to do their part.

Stage 4:

Journal your experiences at the end of resoultion too. What worked, what can get better and how can this technique be applied to another situations.

Stage 5:

Practise meditation daily.

P.S. Anger can be such a friend when you wish to prove your worth. But it can also be your arch nemesis when others are at fault. And their actions are not in your control. It is in times like these that you need to tame the tiger within. Focus on the solution, not on who is right!

Will be great to learn if this helped you in any way