Have you noticed your own trajectory of making connections?

At some point some of us have been either shy, awkward or introverted. With some push, we did get past it to make small talk. And that continued for a long time. Then we began finding a certain set of people with whom we could go beyond the polite pleasantries of civil code of conduct. And finally, we came across some with who we could have deep, meaningful conversations.

Over the years, my interest in small talk jumped out the window. And so did my interest in a lot of superficial individuals. Going all the way from being shy and timid, to becoming hyper social and now choosing the people I stay connected with, I have come a long way. And a recent discovery has led me to believe I prefer to engage with only those where the conversation is deep and adds something to the growth of all parties involved. Other than that, I prefer to read a book, listen to a podcast or learn a new skill.

It was a podcast that suggested that we live with awareness on the content we consume, the thoughts we create, the conversations we make and the company we keep. While it isn’t easy to break the mould, it is not impossible. And once you get into the habit of staying positive in every sphere of life, you start to experience a newness and freshness in your personality and perspectives that help you elevate even more.

One of the positive side effects of engaging only with select company, making meaningful conversations and working to enhance the quality of life is the change in the definition of your own identity. You no longer find yourself caged. Not by race, religion, gender, economic or intellectual status or anything else. You idea of identity becomes fluid. Now that’s what I would call a true work in progress.

P.S. Had lunch with a close friend and the conversation left both of us energised, positive and on a high. The feeling post lunch was light as opposed to lethargic. Now wouldn’t it be ideal if most conversations in a day left you so spirited?